In 11th grade chemistry, Mrs. Dahl’s description of the correlation between the structure of graphite sheets and pencil lead flaking onto the page as I wrote connected the abstract symbols on the page to the real world in a way that changed my perspective forever. It introduced me to the delight that can come when previously obscure ideas not only make sense but illustrate deeper concepts. That experience was the first of many that propelled me to develop spectroscopic and numerical tools for studying molecular interactions and persevere when personal or societal barriers made continuing a challenge. This talk will interweave some of the highlights of my personal journey with a discussion of scientific community’s efforts to increase the participation of women and minorities. The talk also will suggest a shift in focus intended to help young scientists of all backgrounds when they face adversity, and the mentors and leaders who want to support them.